I get along with my ego just fine, even when she flips out or gets scared. I get along with my intuition just fine, even when I feel like she steers me in the wrong direction. But my ego and my intuition don’t seem to get along very well. We’re on the road to finding our own truth and the two of them are constantly fighting over the driver’s seat.
Everybody knows that the ego likes to drive. Here’s a beautifully written article about that here. And for most of my life, my intuition was the calm backseat driver while the ego drove like a drunken teenager. But lately my intuition has been rising up and telling the ego to have several back seats.
I was surprised recently to see that the ego actually listened when told to move to the back. I think it’s because I told my ego to watch my back. I disagree with new-agers who insist that the ego is evil and beyond help; I think you just need to give your ego a job. Here’s how the conversation between my ego and my intuition went:
Intuition: Hey Honey, I’m driving today.
Ego: Okay. So what am I supposed to do?
Intuition: I need you to watch my back and have my back. When I have a hunch, I need you to defend Carla’s decision to act on it.
Ego: But I’m scared. What if you make a wrong turn and we get lost? I don’t want people judging Carla for your bad driving!
Intuition: Well that’s why I need you to protect me! I want you to defend me even if I make a wrong turn because eventually we’ll figure everything out together. Just don’t be afraid because your fear is not real. Only love is real. The more you have my back, the more Carla will trust me.
And that was the gist of the conversation. Instead of getting scared, my ego now respects and defends my intuition’s decisions. She’s like the person in your car who tells anyone who honks at you to fuck off. I love it! She has an “I’m the boss and this is how it’s gonna be” attitude while my intuition has an “I’m gonna be happy no matter what” attitude. They make a great team.
It’s like having two parents at your little league game. One parent is cheering you on loudly, while the other parent is yelling that you need to fix your face and button up your shirt. If you could change the second parent’s actions, would you want him to be silent? Or would you want him to cheer you on with the other parent?
You can yell at your ego if you want to, or ignore it in an attempt to make it go away. But at the end of the day, your ego loves you to death and only needs to be retrained to work for you instead of against you.